ASK THE EXPERT - August 2017

Note: Dear parents, Thank you for sending in your queries. Some of the queries put up by you were not related to children's emotional and behavioural problems but about admissions and results. Please note that this page does not address such questions. Some of you have also sent incomplete queries, with one or two word sentences, such as ‘rude behaviour', ‘happiness' and ‘aggression', which are difficult to respond to, as there is no explanation or description given about how the problem has started, what you find difficult to manage as a parent etc. The more descriptive the problem is, the better we would be able to respond to it.

Thank you

1. She doesnt want to go to school n gives no proper reason she s obviously repelled more by force n she denies that she might be bullied n tbh she cant really be bullied but we are not sure she doesnt sleeps all night n cant wake up early she has only one friend who isnt her classmate she does show signs of depression n is angry all the time she doesnt like her teachers n hates her silly classmates n finds school boring n hard she is also very reserved n not so outgoing thus is getting lonely we just want her to go to school n be normal.

Gender: Female Age: 9 to 13 Category: Mental Health (General)

Response: It seems that you have an open communication with your daughter and that she shares with you how she feels. I suggest that you continue speaking to her in order to address any concerns that she may have related to school, home or any other issue.

It is important to assess all possible factors that may be contributing to the change in your child's behaviour so that these could be addressed accordingly. For example, Is the change in her behaviour with regards to not going to school and not having friends a recent one? Has there been a recent change in her life or has her school changed that may be adding to her reactions and symptoms?

You can help address some of her concerns as well as build skills in her. For example, help her identify class fellows that she shares some interests with and guide her in ways by which she can approach them to become friends. Encourage her to invite those students to the house or take her to meet them just to break the ice. Encourage her to pursue a hobby, sports, interest that she is passionate about and to take part in school activities.

If the condition persists despite making efforts, I would suggest that you show her to a mental health professional with expertise in dealing with children to rule out any mental illness that may be causing the distress.

2. How to teach them.

Gender: Male Age: 9 to 13 Category: Behavioural Issues

Response: The information provided is insufficient to guide you. We would need to know if the issue has to do with behaviour or with lack of understanding of the concepts or both. We would also need to know if the challenges experienced in teaching have just developed or have been there since early childhood.

3. My child is weak in math kindly give expert opinion for improvement.


Gender: Male Age: 9 to 13 Category: Concentration, Attention and Learning Issues

Response: The information provided is insufficient to guide you. We would need to get more specific information about the issues faced in this subject.

It might help if you identify whether the issues arise due to lack of conceptual clarity or lack of concentration or both. It may also help if you can observe your child and assess if there is something specific within mathematics that he grapples with. You may also want to assess the time at which you teach the child mathematics to rule out factors such as tiredness, distractions, etc. that may be effecting the child's learning.

t normally helps, if the concepts are explained using day-to-day life situations and including interactive methods, which you can access online as well as in books. Lastly, I also suggest that you speak the child's teacher and take his/her guidance in devising a strategy to best help your child achieve the required learning outcomes.